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Taking More Fault: A Path to Growth and Responsibility

Reflecting on life’s journey, there are always moments that shape our perspectives and priorities. For me, one area I would approach differently is my willingness to take fault—accepting responsibility not just for what I did, but also for what I could have done better.

Taking fault is often perceived as a negative act, tied to guilt or failure. But in truth, it is a powerful tool for personal growth and building trust. Looking back, I realize that there were instances where I avoided fault to protect my ego, missed opportunities to mend relationships, or allowed situations to worsen because I failed to own my part in them. If I could go back, I’d choose to embrace fault more readily, and here’s why:

1. Strength in Vulnerability

Acknowledging fault requires vulnerability, and vulnerability is a strength. It shows courage to admit that I am not perfect and that I can learn from my mistakes. In moments where I resisted taking fault, I missed the chance to show others—and myself—that growth is a journey, not a destination. By taking fault more openly, I could have fostered deeper connections and demonstrated humility.

2. Fostering Resolution

Blame games and deflection only fuel conflict, while taking fault often acts as the first step toward resolution. If I had owned my shortcomings faster, I could have been a better problem-solver and a more reliable presence in challenging situations. A simple “I was wrong” or “This is on me” can dissolve tension and create space for progress.

3. Setting a Standard

Leaders, whether in relationships, teams, or communities, set the tone by how they handle responsibility. By taking fault, I could have set an example of accountability for those around me. Whether in school, during my time at Adisadel College or Mercer Community College, or on the basketball court, showing accountability would have encouraged others to do the same.

4. Personal Growth Through Ownership

Every time we take fault, we gain clarity about our blind spots. It’s not just about admitting where I went wrong, but also about learning what I could have done differently. Whether it’s through my writing streaks or resting well to recharge, growth comes from owning every aspect of the journey, including the missteps.

Looking Forward

Moving forward, I want to actively take more fault when necessary. I’ll ask myself tough questions:

Did I fully show up for this task or relationship?

Could I have approached this with more empathy or effort?

What part of this situation could I have influenced better?


Taking fault is not about carrying undue guilt—it’s about acknowledging reality, learning from it, and using it to evolve into a better version of myself. If I can do that, I know I’ll create stronger connections, foster understanding, and ultimately lead a more meaningful life.

So here’s to taking fault—because the person who owns their mistakes owns their future.

Until next time..