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How I Believe You Can “Have It All” — Once You Define What “All” Is

People often say you can’t have it all. But I disagree — not because I believe in the fantasy of juggling perfect health, unlimited money, deep relationships, and a dream job without stress — but because I believe “having it all” depends entirely on what your “all” is.

The truth is, once you clarify your version of “all,” it becomes possible, even sustainable. For me, I’ve realized that “all” doesn’t mean everything — it means a few things that matter deeply to me. Once I narrowed that down, I could start focusing my energy, my time, and my heart in a meaningful direction.

Here’s what “all” looks like to me:

1. Self — Mind, Emotional Energy, and Physical Stage

First and foremost, I need my Self to be aligned. That means a mind that can think freely, emotional energy that feels stable and supported, and a body that can move, rest, and be present. This is my foundation. When this area is off, everything else falls like a domino. So I prioritize moments of solitude, clarity, movement, and awareness. That’s the inner compass.

2. Some Money — Wealth with Purpose

Next, I need some money. Not endless riches or yachts — just enough to feel secure, to support my creative life, and to move through the world with a sense of choice and dignity. Money that gives me time, access, and room to grow. Wealth isn’t about the size of the number — it’s about what it allows me to do without taking away my peace.

3. Others — Family and Real Connection

Third, I want to give and receive love. That starts with family — the people I trust and treasure, the ones I check in on and who check in on me. That includes chosen family too — friends who are lifelines. Being rich in these kinds of relationships is wealth in another form. My “all” includes meaningful connection.

4. A Daily Plan That Touches All Four

Finally, I need rhythm. A life that feels like it’s honoring each of these pieces. Not every day will be perfectly balanced, but I aim for a day that touches each: a moment for self, a moment for financial clarity or growth, a moment for connection with someone, and a moment where I’m aware of the plan I’m living into.

That’s when I feel like I “have it all” — not because I’ve reached some finish line, but because I’ve defined the race on my own terms.

When you define your “all” as a few focused truths — and build your life to check in with them regularly — you might realize, like me, that “having it all” is not only possible, but already within reach.

Until next time .

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