Redominatelife

Growth from Faults

One thing I want to change about myself is how I treat my own faults. Not by pretending they don’t exist, and not by attacking myself for having them—but by being kinder in how I notice them. I am learning that harsh self-judgment doesn’t make me better. It only makes me smaller in the moment.

I’ve realized something uncomfortable but honest: when I point my finger outward too harshly, I am really pointing my whole hand back at myself—harder. Every accusation I throw at the world comes back with more weight. The frustration, the blame, the sharp words I aim at others often land deeper on me than I expect. In the moment of judgment, I hurt myself most.

For a long time, I know being strict with myself meant being responsible and I realized pressure meant growth. But lately, I see that constant blame creates tension, not transformation. It tightens my chest. It clouds my vision. It makes me miss what is actually happening right now.

What is important in the moment is not perfection. It is noticing.

Noticing when my tone gets too sharp. Noticing when my thoughts spiral into attack mode. Noticing when I turn a simple mistake into a personal failure. That pause—just a second of awareness—is where change quietly begins. Not with force. With attention.

Being kinder to my faults doesn’t mean excusing everything. It means understanding that I am human in motion, not a finished product. It means I can correct without crushing. I can grow without hating the version of me that is still learning.

This is the change I want: to treat my flaws like signals, not enemies. To respond with curiosity instead of recycled doubt . To speak to myself in a way that actually helps me stand back up.

Because every time I refocus my judgment, I gain something stronger in return—clarity. And in that clarity, I finally notice what matters most: this moment, this breath, this chance to choose again.

Until next time.